All relationships need care and attention, no matter the stage. And even the best relationships face struggle. This is completely normal! Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a cycle of conflict or disconnection with our partner that we can’t seem to find a way out of.
When this happens, we might try to fix things with our partner only to find ourselves more deeply frustrated. We want to be closer to our partner but do not know how to reach them. Or, perhaps we feel they have stopped trying to reach us and we begin to feel discouraged.
No matter the circumstance, therapy can help.
What is Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)?
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples is an experiential and systemic couples modality and one of the most researched and empirically-validated approached in the field of couples therapy. It has demonstrated powerful clinically significant effects with various populations. In addition to couples, EFT works well with individuals (see EFIT) and families (see EFFT) on a variety of concerns. EFT presents a comprehensive theory of adult love and attachment and a process for healing distressed relationships. It recognizes that relationship distress results from a perceived threat to basic adult needs for safety, security and closeness in intimate relationships. This experiential/systemic therapy focuses on helping each partner reprocess the emotional experience underlying the rigid negative interactional patterns that keep them stuck. Through a series of well-defined stages, the therapist takes the couples from conflict deadlock to creating new lasting bonding interactions.
EFT Couple Therapy Goals:
– Expand and re-organize key emotional responses and, in the process, the organization of self
– To create a positive shift in partners interactional positions and patterns
– To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners
How can EFT HElp?
As noted by the International Center for Excellence in EFT, research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements in 10-12 sessions. In fact, recent brain imaging studies have shown remarkable brain changes among couples who have successfully completed EFT therapy.
It's NEVER Too Late To TrY
Whatever problems you are facing, whichever areas you want to grow in, couples counseling can help you navigate your way back to happiness.
Research shows that one of the biggest oversights a couple can make is waiting too long before seeking counseling. Don’t wait anymore! Take your first step today.
It is amazing how many couples think their relationship is too lost to be saved, only to discover that after couples therapy they are happier and closer than they have ever been before.
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Worried your relationship is too stuck to be saved? Think your partner isn’t willing to give therapy a try? Have you tried therapy in the past and found it ‘didn’t work’? Afraid you won’t find a therapist with right expertise to help?
These concerns are understandable and very common, and I’ve helped many clients navigate through them successfully. Couples counseling really is for all kinds of situations– even when a relationship feels hopeless to save. Let me help you work your way to a healthy, secure, and loving relationship.